...in Couples, in Families, between Friends and at Work
A national conference to facilitate exchange of ideas among researchers in the fields of relationships, practitioners of relationship-oriented therapies and enhancement strategies, and "end users" of personal relationships. The goal is to give presenters an opportunity to share current thinking about personal relationships based on research or professional experience and to receive feedback from colleagues and the general public. It is an opportunity for practitioners to share insights that have not received sufficient research attention or to suggest areas for future research. Researchers are encouraged to showcase new research that could aid practitioners in being more effective in their work.
the Arizona Counselors Association (NBCC provider number
2003)
the Arizona Institute for Family Therapy
Graduate students interested in participating in a graduate seminar on Successful Relating, being held in conjunction with the conference, should contact The Department of Communication for details.
Continuing Education Units (CEU's) are available from The University of
Arizona Extended University. Attendance at Successful Relating will earn 2.9 CEU's.
One CEU equals ten contact hours. The $20.00 fee includes an official
noncredit
transcript.
Successful Relating is recognized for Continuing Education
Credit by the Arizona Association for Marriage and Family
Therapy.
General
Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D is a professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle. Schwartz received both her B.A. and M.B.A. from Washington University. She received her Ph.D. in sociology from Yale University in 1974. She has been a full professor at the University of Washington since 1988. Her fields of professional interest are marriage and the family, gender, human sexuality, and qualitative methodologies. She has authored numerous articles on these subjects as well as several books. In 1971, she co-authored Women at Yale: An Examination of Male and Female Roles. In 1983 came American Couples: Money, Work and Sex. Schwartz's latest book is titled Peer Marriage: How Love Between Equals Really Works.
Lillian Rubin, Ph.D. is currently senior research fellow at the Institute for the Study of Social Change, U.C. Berkeley, and a practicing psychologist in San Francisco. She received her B.A., M.A. and Ph.D. in sociology from U.C. Berkeley. Rubin has published nine books in the last two decades, among them some of the most widely read and respected works in psychology and sociology. Her work includes Intimate Strangers: Men and Women Together, published in 1983, followed in 1985 by Just Friends: The Role of Friendship in Our Lives. Her latest book is The Transcendent Child: Tales of Triumph Over the Past.
Elaine Hatfield, PhD. and Richard Rapson, Ph.D. are with the University of Hawaii and are co- psychotherapists as well as husband and wife. Based on their living in Hawaii in a multicultural society, they have written a book together titled Love and Sex: Cross Cultural Perspectives.
Wednesday, March 18, 1998
3:00-6:00pm Registration
6:00-8:30pm Welcome Reception and Poster Session
Thursday, March 19, 1998
TRACK: Successful Relating in Romantic
Relationships
COORDINATORS: Ron Wright and Craig Everett
8:30-9:45am KEYNOTE ADDRESS
Pepper Schwartz: Cuddling, Petting and Passion: How Sex
Contributes fo Successful Relationships
9:45-10:15am BREAK
10:15-12 noon DIALOG SESSIONS
D1 Defining "success" in successful
relationships.
12-1:15pm LUNCH
1:15-3:00pm DIALOG SESSIONS
D3 "Too close for comfort:" Achieving optimal
intimacy in relationships.
D4 Sex and sexuality.
3:00-3:30pm BREAK
3:30-5:30pm WORKSHOPS
W1 The clinician/researcher gap: A dialogue to
improve relationships.
W2 How to regain trust after betrayal: One
definition of a successful relationship.
W3 Co-dependency and relationship success.
W4. Love, energy medicine, and healing relationships:
Theory, research, and practice.
Friday, March 20, 1998
TRACK: Successful Relating in Friendships
TRACK COORDINATORS: Judee Burgoon & Kory Floyd
8:30-9:45am KEYNOTE ADDRESS
Lillian Rubin: Just Friends--The Role of Friendship in Our
Lives
9:45-10:15am BREAK
10:15-12 noon DIALOG SESSIONS
D5 He talk/she talk
D6 Deception games: How do we know when we’re being
lied to?
10:15 - 12 WORKSHOPS
W5 Communication, Relationships, and Sobriety
Maintenance.
12-1:15pm LUNCH
1:15-3:00pm DIALOG SESSIONS
D7 What’s driving this relationship? The
relative importance of biology and socialization
D8 Communication markers of success: Analyzing
videotaped interaction.
1:15-3:00pm WORKSHOPS
W6 When "self" becomes "other": A workshop concerning
successful relating for persons with physical
disabilities.
W7 Applications of relational framing concepts to the
problem of sexual harassment
Ambivalence and Mixed Signalling in Sexual Decision Making and Communication
Essentials of Conflict Resolution
3:00-3:30pm BREAK
3:30-5:30pm WORKSHOPS
W8 Sexuality and disability.
W9 Systematic observation of affect in therapy:
Clinical applications of the Specific Affect
Coding Scheme.
W10 Support-focused marital therapy: Theory,
techniques and preliminary data outcome.
W11 Love and Relationships on the Internet.
Saturday, March 21, 1998
TRACK: Successful Relating in Family and Work
Relationships
TRACK COORDINATORS: Rod Cate and Michael Dues
9:00-10:30am KEYNOTE ADDRESS
Elaine Hatfield and Dick Rapson: Passionate Love and Sexual
Desire--How Universal Are They?
10:30-10:45am BREAK
10:45-12:30 DIALOG SESSIONS
D9 Communication, social support and recovery
from addiction.
D10 The place of power and dominance in friend
and work relationships.
10:45-12:30pm WORKSHOPS
W12 Schizophrenia, communication, and
psychotherapy
W13 Relating to teens as they adjust to divorce.
W14 On being the "enabler" in medical relationships:
What patients can do to improve the
communication between themselves and physicians-
-and in the process, improve the quality of
medical care, too.
Mediator Effectiveness and Neutrality: Maintaining Successful Community Relations
12:30-1:30 pm LUNCH
1:30-3:15 pm DIALOG SESSION
D11 Saving abusive and violent relationships.
1:30-3:15 pm WORKSHOPS
W15 Chronic illness and disability: Clarification of
relationship issues in family, work and
community.
W16 Successful relationships and communicating social
support.
W17 Poetry as therapy as analogue as communion as
communication.
1:30-4:30 SEMINAR ON CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS
Mac Parks, Brant Burleson, Chuck Berger, Jim Dillard, Denise
Solomon, Steve Duck, Judee Burgoon, Art VanLear, Elaine
Hatfield
Thursday, March 19, 1998
DIALOGUES
Defining "Success" in Successful RelationshipsI Didn’t Really Mean It!: How Much Do Relationships
Operate on Automatic Pilot?
Are people’s actions largely goal-directed and based on
thoughtful deliberation or largely a matter of following
mindless, habitual and automatic routines? Are arguments
likely to bring out automatic, often simplistic, ways of
thinking and reacting? What are the implications for mindful
versus mindless interacting in relationships? Panelists will
debate the degree of planning and strategic activity versus
automaticity and mindlessness that governs interactions in
close relationships.
"Too Close for Comfort:" Achieving Optimal
Intimacy in Relationships
What defines optimal intimacy in relationships? Are
intimacy, openness, and full self-disclosure the ultimate
objective of relationships? Can relationships be too close?
If so, how much is too much or too little? This dialog will
address the merits of popular advice that encourages couples
to strive for full and open disclosure in relationships and
to make intimacy a primary relational goal.
Sex and Sexuality
Sex is a fundamental aspect of human beings. How do we
communicate about sex? Is sex communication? Does having sex
with a partner enhance or deter a relationship? What are the
implications of sexually transmitted diseases and the
HIV/AIDS crisis for how people relate sexually and talk
about sex? Panelists will focus on the interpersonal
consequences of sexual interaction in diverse types of
relationships.
WORKSHOPS
The Clinician/Researcher Gap: A Dialogue to Improve
Relationships
Darci Cramer-Benjamin, University of Connecticut
How to Regain Trust After Betrayal: One Definition of
a Successful Relationship
Marjorie Holiman, private practice, Tucson, AZ
Co-Dependency and Relationship Success
Beth Le Poire, Department of Communication, University
of California, Santa Barbara
Love, Energy Medicine, and Healing Relationships:
Theory, Research, and Practice
Gary E.R. Schwartz, Department of Psychology, University
of Arizona
Linda G.S. Russek, Department of Psychology, University of
Arizona
Friday, March 20, 1998
DIALOGUES
He Talk/She Talk
Do men and women have different ways of expressing
friendship and intimacy? If so, is one gender’s way of
relating superior to that of the other gender? If not, what
evidence is there that men and women are more alike than
different? This dialog will address the claims that men and
women inhabit different relational cultures and that men
need to emulate women’s ways of expressing liking,
friendship, and intimacy.
Deception Games: How Do We Know When We’re Being Lied
To?
Can people tell when friends and lovers are lying? If
so, do liars give themselves away or are partners and
therapists good at detecting deceit? If not, why not? Is
believing a partner’s deceit good for relationship survival?
Panelists will address recent theories regarding if and how
deceit is likely to be detected in familiar relationships.
They will also consider application to therapist-client
relationships.
What’s Driving This Relationship? The Relative
Importance of Biology and Socialization.
Some researchers propose that genetic and other
biological and physiological factors influence how men and
women relate and select mates. But other researchers
question the viability of biological explanations, arguing
in behalf of gender roles and other social factors as
essential determinants. Panelists will address the evidence
for these various claims and what recommendations for
successful relating can be drawn from each.
Markers of Success: Analyzing Videotaped
Interaction.
Participants will focus on issues involved in analyzing
dyadic interactions as captured on videotape. They will
address practical considerations, such as which verbal and
nonverbal coding schemes might be most appropriate and
useful, which size measurement windows should be adopted,
and the relative merits of macro versus micro and objective
versus subjective coding. Researchers will bring selected
videotapes from medical interviews, couples interactions,
and TV talk show confrontations for analysis.
WORKSHOPS
Communication, Relationships, and Sobriety
Maintenance
Art VanLear, Department of Communication, University of
Connecticut
Computers, the Internet, and Relationship Enhancement
Davor Jedlicka, Department of Social Sciences, University of Texas at Tyler
When "Self" Becomes "Other": A Workshop Concerning
Successful Relating for Persons with Physical
Disabilities
Michael Peters, University of Arizona
Kevin Flanagan, Carondelet St. Joseph's Hospital of
Tucson
Charlene Kampf, University of Arizona
Ellen Ward, Pima Prevention Partnership
Lenae Liebestrau, Pima Prevention Partnership
Ambivalence and Mixed Signalling in Sexual Decision Making and Communication
Linda Young, Psychological and Counseling Services, University of California, San Diego
Applications of Relational Framing Concepts to the
Problem of Sexual Harassment
Denise Solomon, Department of Communication, University
of Wisconsin
Essentials of Conflict Resolution
Ann Marie Barry, Department of Communication, Boston College
David Barry, Department of Management, Salem State College
Janice Barrett, Department of Communication, Boston University
Deborah Fish, Cape Cod Dispute Resolution Center
Sexuality and Disability
S. Mae Smith, Licensed Psychologist, The University of
Arizona
Les McAllen, Licensed Psychologist, The University of
Arizona
Systematic Observation of Affect in Therapy: Clinical
Applications of the Specific Affect Coding Scheme (Part
I)
James A. Coan, Department of Psychology, University of
Arizona
Support-Focused Marital Therapy: Theory, Techniques,
and Preliminary Data Outcome
Robert P. Rugel, George Mason University
Night on the Net: An Evevning Workshop on Love and Relationships on the Internet
Malcolm Parks, University of Washington
Saturday, March 21
DIALOGUES
Saving Abusive and Violent Relationships
Can abusive relationships be saved or are they doomed
from the start? What factors trigger abuse and violence in
relationships? How amenable are these to intervention and
change? Panelists will examine these questions and
successful means of responding to or managing abuse in
relationships.
The Place of Power and Dominance in Friend and Work
Relationships
What is dominance? How is it communicated? Under what
circumstances is it harmful or beneficial to new and ongoing
relationships? Participants will examine interpersonal
dominance as a dimension of relational communication and
address its positive and negative impacts in promoting
attraction and influence.
Communication, Social Support and Recovery from
Addiction.
Does social support help a person succeed in recovering
from addiction? Does relational satisfaction help? Can
improving communication skills help prevent relapse in
recovering addicts? If so, how? And how much? This panel
will focus on the relationship between communication skills,
social support, relational satisfaction, and success in
sustained recovery from substance addiction.
WORKSHOPS
Schizophrenia, Communication, and Psychotherapy
Ross Buck, University of Connecticut
Relating to Teens as They Adjust to Divorce
Richard P. Long, Licensed Therapist, Columbus State
University
Mediator Effectiveness and Neutrality: Maintaining Successful Community Relations
Scott Jacobs, Department of Communication, The University of Arizona
Adam Glasser, Mediation Coordinator, Arizona Attorney General's Office
Laura Roberts, Department of Communication, The University of Arizona
On Being the "Enabler" in Medical Relationships: What
Patients Can Do to Improve the Communication Between
Themselves and Physicians--and in the Process, Improve the
Quality of Medical Care, Too
Marsha Clowers, Fordham University
Holly Clowers-Webb, University of Alabama Medical School
Bradley Webb, University of Alabama Medical School
Chronic Illness and Disability: Clarification of
Relationship Issues in Family, Work and Community
Renee F. Lyons, Dalhousie University, Atlantic Health
Promotion Research Center
Lynn Langille, Dalhousie University
Sotiria Tsirigotis, Dalhousie University
Successful Relationships and Communicating Social
Support
Maureen P. Keeley, Department of Communication,
Southwest Texas State University
Marie Reyna, La Frontera, Tucson, Arizona
Poetry as Therapy as Analogue as Communion as
Communication
David Williams, Department of Communication, University
of Arizona
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The deadline for poster submissions has been extended to
February 1, 1998.
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Successful Relating 98 Conference
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